Counseling to work on understanding your harmful relationship patterns can put you on the path toward change. Often the first step toward healthy boundaries is figuring out who you are and what you want. It is important, in a sense, to paint a picture of yourself in the world that you enjoy seeing. Knowing yourself better puts you on firmer ground, and understanding your needs and wants can mean you are less likely to be caught up in someone else’s storms. Imagine what it would be like if, instead of being pushed and pulled across a life you don’t want, you could peacefully walk with others and enjoy your own company?